We live in an era where romantic relationships seem more fragile than ever. We break up easily, become frustrated at the first obstacle, and often console ourselves by thinking that couples who grow old together have simply been “lucky.” However, the science of human relationships says quite the opposite. After more than 40 years of listening to, advising, and supporting thousands of people, biologist and educator José María Contreras is absolutely certain:  love is not a lottery; it is a subject that can—and should—be learned.

To share all the wisdom she’s accumulated through thousands of workshops and conferences, Contreras has partnered with the  Aula Mucha Vida platform  to launch her first major digital training program:  “Why Some Fail and Others Succeed in Love .” This 18-chapter journey, offering over five hours of training, is designed for couples in crisis, couples starting to build their future together, and singles seeking to heal past wounds.

The great trap: confusing feeling with will

The expert’s central thesis completely dismantles the myth of modern romanticism. “The organ of love is not feeling, it’s will,” he states emphatically. As Contreras explains in the course, initial infatuation is a transitory state, a phase of idealization where we positively perceive what we don’t yet know. The real danger arises when the feeling fluctuates and the couple lacks the tools to sustain the relationship.

The course itinerary is designed like a road map divided into three main blocks to understand the complete cycle of a relationship:

• The cycle of failure:  An in-depth analysis of the most common and destructive mistakes such as emotional immaturity, constant complaining, the silence that distances and the obsessive desire to be right (which he defines as “the drug that destroys the most marriages”).
• The change of perspective:  The turning point where one understands that love is a daily decision that requires commitment and a conscious effort to work on one’s own character.
• The cycle of success:  Practical tools based on effective communication, real forgiveness (which involves forgetting and not reopening old wounds) and the development of a shared life project.

A life manual for “burning your bridges”

Unlike abstract theories, Contreras’s method stands out for its practical application to everyday life. Throughout the lessons, he addresses sensitive and very real topics such as the dangers of emotional infidelity, managing in-laws, the influence of pornography on relationships, and how to decode the “five love languages” to learn to love your partner in the way they truly need to be loved.

The course is presented in a 100% online format with unlimited access, allowing students to progress at their own pace. In addition to audiovisual content and downloadable summaries, the program offers a unique advantage:  two live sessions per year with José María Contreras himself  to answer questions and address specific cases raised by students.

Learning to love well is probably the most profitable and lasting investment you can make in life. Because, as the course author himself reminds us, when the emotional foundation is strong, everything else falls into place.

All the information is here.