The son makes the woman a mother. And they both acquire that name on the same day.  Nothing is ever the same again .

All life will be a learning process of letting go, but the bond will be eternal.

The relationship between the two will mark their biographies.

Concepts, traditions, glances, silences, and words leave a furrow in the soul, and to that furrow, we always return to quench our thirst for the spring.

To understand the journeys, the choices, the outcomes, we must weave freedoms into action, with respect and compassion. No one has a master’s degree in parenting. And, no one can give what they don’t have.

In all relationships, it’s wise to avoid making hasty judgments. We all have a history, a biography that may influence our behavior. Compassion—suffering “with,” empathetically—is part of the quality of parents who, always united, are able to turn a stone into a diamond.

We want to see our children happy. It’s not easy if the concepts aren’t clear; learning to be happy while navigating suffering is a tough and demanding lesson, but one as profound and real as life itself.

The cobblestones of daily life

All fears are, to a large extent, a consequence of insecurity, of the lack of self-esteem that it generates. In reality, they feed off each other.

Fear of rejection, failure, loneliness, illness, the opinions of others… all are closely linked to conflicts of the imagination. We experience these fears as tangible realities. And we suffer their effects by acting on them in specific behaviors. A cycle of despair and helplessness, which can be broken if we allow ourselves to be helped by those who know, respect, and value us.  We are not alone.

Let’s talk about self-esteem and confidence

Healthy self-esteem is the value a person places on themselves based on reality, with humility and courage. It acknowledges both strengths and weaknesses, and is founded on the acceptance of oneself as a whole.

But when we believe that “being okay” means “never suffering,” we fall into the trap of toxic positivity:  denying or disguising painful emotions. This can generate guilt and frustration, the absence of happiness in suffering; it can also generate emotional disconnection : pretending to be fine, saying, “Nothing’s wrong with me!” when everything is wrong…

Denied suffering doesn’t disappear, it just hides.  In the long run, it transforms into anxiety, physical symptoms, irritability, deep sadness, and difficulty trusting or forming secure and stable relationships.

Risk of excess:

 When self-esteem swells!

Positive psychology values ​​healthy self-esteem as a cornerstone of genuine well-being, but when it ignores or minimizes negative emotions and real difficulties, it can have negative consequences. This deviation, known as toxic positivity, involves enduring social and personal pressure to maintain constant happiness and an exaggeratedly positive attitude, which ultimately increases what we want to avoid: unhappiness and frustration.

It also produces a disconnection from oneself and others by hiding or denying real and necessary emotions, such as sadness, pain, or anger.

Denying negative emotions in the long term can have profoundly detrimental effects on a person’s mental, emotional, and physical health. Among the most relevant effects are:

The narcissistic personality

Building idols!

Excessive!

If we only educate for applause, for “flawless” results, for everyone’s admiration… we are creating falsified images of each child, we are creating idols of clay. What will happen when they fail, and we are not by their side?

Today’s children are at risk when they understand that their value depends on the brilliance they exude.

We speak of excess in the realm of being.   The obesity of the self. A clear manifestation of the distortion that arises when there is no truth.

Narcissistic self-esteem is like an unstable kite tossed by the wind, fueled by a constant need for admiration and external validation. This type of self-esteem masks deep insecurities and manifests as a quest for superiority, a denial of one’s own limitations, and distrust of others. It tends to be reactive to criticism and can lead to arrogant and manipulative behavior.

It is important to stop this construction.

“The hunger of the soul is hard to bear” (Byung-chul Han)

Hope that does not disappoint

If the family offers a space where one can live without fear, embracing what hurts, what brings joy, what confuses, what helps one grow; laughing and crying; asking for forgiveness and forgiving, we will be forming people capable of going through life without breaking.

Educational action is about empowering people for self-governance and giving!

Where the stones gleam in the sun. Where the kite flies high because it has string and wind. Where the furrow is made of love, truth, and a coherent life.

An educational process that is intentional and constant, where every word, every silence, every hug counts. Where daily practice empowers us to embrace the palette of colors that life offers.

How we combine those colors is our personal responsibility.